As human beings we are always fascinated and drawn to the unknown. Although certainly not the basis of successful interracial relationships curiosity and a desire to explore other possibilities may have contributed to the initial attraction that some feel towards those that are culturally different. The allure that Asian women have enjoyed can largely be attributed to the physical and cultural differences that exist between them and Western women.
However as acknowledged this fact may only serve to peak a man’s interest initially, there has to be something deeper than curiosity to hold it all together. Here is where doing research on your potential partner comes in. Now in this article we are talking about secrets of developing mature relationships with Asian women not a random fling. If you’re interested in the latter there are quite a few internet dating sites that cater to this thinking and have taken all the guess work out of the entire process, just point and click your way into someone’s bed. For those that are serious about dating Asian women the secret is knowledge.
Knowledge? Yes, the secrets of dating Asian women start and end with knowledge. Asian women are drawn to men who exude confidence. This is not to be confused with obnoxious, cocky behavior. No one likes a braggart. A truly confident man doesn’t have to constantly reaffirm his manhood by repeatedly making references to the amount of money he makes, or his title at work, or the amount of material possessions he has. Confidence comes across in your demeanor, always be neat, in your attitude, be courteous and valiant. Allow her to talk about herself and really listen. She will give you little tid bits about her personality that will help you not to be so clueless when it comes to planning for subsequent dates.
When setting a date specify what plans you have for the evening. Make sure to demonstrate that you’ve put a lot of thought into the date, this shows confidence again, but don’t make your plans so rigid that there is no room for her input. Arrange to meet at a neutral place like her work place or the restaurant. This way there are no assumptions or awkward situations should the evening not go well. Even when dating Asian women sometimes the chemistry is just not there.
When engaging her in conversation show that you are knowledgeable about her culture. You don’t have to be a walking encyclopedia but let her know that you appreciate, are accepting of and do not feel intimidated by the differences that exist between the two of you. Take the time to perhaps brush her hand softly if her gaze wanders a bit during conversation. It’s called the art of romance and women, regardless of ethnic and cultural background, really dig it. Make a reservation at a restaurant that lends itself to moderate intimacy so that you can fully enjoy the conversation without a lot of hustle and bustle.
At the end of the night allow her to set the pace for any romantic interlude that may or may not ensue. The best way to spoil a perfect evening is to turn into an octopus. So pump your brakes and read her body language. Take her hand gently in yours and look into her eyes and express thanks for the evening. If she tenses slightly that is an indication that the intimacy is too much and you should back off. In that case kiss her hand lightly and bid her good night. If she remains relaxed and returns your gaze step in slowly and plant a kiss lightly on her cheek; closer to the corner of her lip than to her ear. If she’s digging it she’ll return the favor and it will be worth it.